Why I'm Taking a Break From Radical Emergence
Failing In Front of People: How to Screw Up in Public (from a pro!)
Last week’s launch was a major benchmark – phew! And as such, it also served as a moment for reflection. I wanted to share my process with you.
I’m taking a break – perhaps short term, perhaps indefinitely – from Radical Emergence. Some of you won’t care one way or another, so feel free to stop reading now! For those of you who are curious to know more, here’s why:
What No One Tells You About Being an Entrepreneur and a Mom
This is a biggie for me. As in, I’ve done this. Multiple times. Personally and professionally. So basically I’m going to consider myself a pro on this topic, mmmkay?
My story is not polished. And while I could share endlessly about my recovery from perfectionism or life as a goal-driven high achiever, an imperfect path is far from what I’m talking about.
My 10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes (So You Don’t Have to Make Them)
This post will be controversial, no doubt. You’ve likely seen a quote, or even read an entire book in the past year about how “you can truly have it all”. This is most certainly true if you’re a woman. You’ve seen it in your Instagram feed, you’ve heard it on your favorite podcast.
Why You Should Be Watching Queer Eye on Netflix
I’ve created my share of drama in relationships over the years. In fact, sometimes looking back I imagine myself as a little Tasmanian devil stirring up tornados wherever I landed. Today I want to share with you my top 10 things not to do in relationships if you’re looking for true, lasting happiness
Communication Hack: “The Shit Sandwich” 2.0
You guys, tell me you’ve been watching the new Queer Eye on Netflix. If so, can we talk about how I’m basically in tears every episode?! The show is fun and engaging, smart, relevant, moving, and challenges us, the audience, at every turn. I’m obsessed.
20 Things I’ve Never Told You
So, you may be familiar with a method of delivering critical feedback known as “The Shit Sandwich”. The idea is that you sandwich “negative” feedback between two slices of praise. While this method may work in some cases, it has largely been proven ineffective.
Beyond Brené: Why Talking About Vulnerability Just Isn’t Cutting It
Alright I’m going to dip my foot into the realm of public vulnerability in this post. I’m starting small, because as I often say to my clients - “share check”. Share checking means you share a little bit of yourself with another person, and then check to see how you feel and how they respond.
The #1 Way Technology Impacts Face-to-Face Relationships
This post is likely to garner critics. And I get it. I’m a huge fan of Brené Brown. Her books and TED Talks have been game-changers for me over the course of my own personal evolution. I have prescribed her TED Talks as homework assignments to my clients. I have led groups on her research and teachings.
5 Things You Teach People When You Try to Rescue or Fix Them
Most of us have some clarity about the ways in which social media and our smartphones have impacted our perception of ourselves. We feel the anxiety, the pressure, the performance that social media can create in our lives. We can name the ways in which social media has exacerbated our negative self-talk, our depression, our poor relationship with our bodies, to name just a few. We can even describe relationship histories with our technologies that feel less than healthy.
A Therapist Mama’s Quick and Easy Guide for New Parents: How to Not Totally Fuck It Up Straight Out the Gate (*Trust Me, I Tried*)
We teach people who they are by how we treat them. If we are constantly trying to rescue and fix people, we may be inadvertently teaching them what they should believe about themselves and their capacities.
Communication 101: Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart
First, let me tell you a short story about the birth of my daughter, but mostly about the 7 days that followed her birth.
After 5 (yes, 5) excruciating days of labor, our sweet Hazel was born to a Cancer moon in the summer of 2016. Now before I tell you about what happened next, I need you to know a little bit about me...
What to Do When You’ve Messed Up and Said Something Harmful
I have always been fascinated by communication. By what people think it is versus what it actually involves. By the myriad of ways in which it happens when we’re not aware of it, or doesn’t happen when we think it is. By language and meaning.
“What’s the Point?”: Having Conversations with People Who Think Differently Than You
We all know the feeling. We let a casual comment fly out without thinking. We post an article or meme and there’s unexpected backlash. We add our voice to the comments section and get ripped a new one.
Oh, the shame.
Struggling with Anger or Rage? Consider This.
Let me start by saying, I am totally guilty of this. Plenty of times I have forgone the difficult or awkward conversation in the name of comfort. Plenty of times I have convinced myself that it was “better for the relationship” that we not go there.
What My Oldest (he was 96 when he died) Friend Taught Me About Inclusion (And It’s Probably Not What You’re Thinking)
Anger is one of our most important emotions. It signals that something essential to us is in need of protection. Anger functions like a red flag that says, “Pay Attention!” While anger will often cause us to feel out of control or ashamed, understanding the iceberg nature of anger can give us clues as to what’s really going on.
I was 6 years old when I met Dekle Taylor for the first time. I will never forget - we were moving through the greeting line at the first church I attended with my parents. Dekle was shaking hands. I remember when he got to me, he got right down on my level, looked me square in the face and said…